Why I quit roleplay, or more why I left rpr

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AuthorSquiddlyTheImp

Created Dec 17, 2019 11:40:26

Tbh I don't think anyone will remember me, not even those that I roleplayed with a lot. Either way I just need to get this out there because RPR can be a pretty toxic community.

So after abandoning this account I had another account but now I've left that one too. The other account is deactivated though and I don't want to reactivate it just to post this blog so that's why I'm here.

Effectively I'm tired of all the face chasing, and the fact that if you play a female character you stand no chance of getting plots unless their with friends, unless of course you play one of the few popular female muses.

I tried playing Male characters but playing them made me so anxious I'd cry and vomit half of the time. I only played them because I knew one of my friends wasn't so comfortable roleplaying with female characters, but then everybody else would ambush my male character talking about how much they wanted to roleplay with me. When I pointed out my female characters they'd express their hatred of roleplaying with females (no joke, if you hate roleplaying with females stick to a roleplay. In an all ori rp, you don't gotta the women, just don't completely ignore their existence)

I'm tired of playing characters in au's, only to be told that I'm playing the muse wrong and that they wouldn't behave like that.

I'm tired of playing characters and being told I'm labelling their uality wrong. (Auals don't magically have their s disappear. Just because a character has no interest in and doesn't experience ual attraction, doesn't mean they are completely incapable of having because they love their partner or in more malicious terms they know how they can use to manipulate others)

I'm just tired of being ignored and being told that I'm not doing things right.

Roleplay was my life, but I've been chased away from it and it's ing devastating. Now on my days off I have nothing. My free time I have nothing.

I just spend all of my time in bed, staring at the ceiling, or at work.

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TokidokiHelloKitty 5 years ago

Literally everything you said in this post is stuff I experienced too. Also, I agree! Girl charas get glossed over so much, which because girls and women are rad! Honestly, I'd love to be able to rp a straight couple, and have the other person play the female muse, so if you wanna be a female muse with me, we totally can. And if you wanna girlXgirl we can do that too :)

Gosh, this is awful, I so sorry you had to go through all this. Especially the "you're not rping the muse right" thing. That pisses me off too.

If you still wanna rp but don't wanna deal with all the BS, hit me up for PM rping if you'd like.

teukkies 5 years ago

i'm sorry to hear this, hon. moreso i was sorry when i heard the first hint of it happening, and now it looks worse to see it actually all laid out. the people who have done that need a serious check in their own lives, and the person who broke the last straw is- well, to say toxic is probably not enough.

i understand the need to pull away, but if you do choose to come back either on this account or on that one, don't forget to hit me up, maybe? i won't go chasing after friendship in case you want to be completely done and really do want to just stay away, but that weird teukkie you met will miss you.

ubebread 5 years ago

that bit about people expressing their hatred of rping with female characters esp in an all-orientations rp, i'm so sorry you've had to go through that. i feel for you so hard. misogyny (and internalized kind from fellow women) is ed up and disheartening :( also people need to dictating how others play muses in au rps. it's an alternative universe for a reason!! you don't have to follow strict characterization if you don't want to

anyways, you need to do what's best for you. if you're still interested in rping, maybe look into different platforms? i believe dreamwidth and insanejournal are still active and there's always discord too. still don't force yourself!! hopefully the new year will bring better, safer roleplaying opportunities

046b1a71f747eee539c7 5 years ago

I feel you and am on your side for this, bub. It's not really your fault that other people are critizing you this and that abut your own charas. It really happens all the time whenever I am in a rp. I mean, like, we are human beings who want to just creative with our own charas however we are comfortable with. You are you, I am me, we are all different and we all roleplay differently so who cares what those hypocrites say. Do whatever makes you feel happy because I do that too and don't really give a about other people's opinion about my own charas. This is why I created my own OOC roleplaying rules on my personal profile on this site. If they are not comfortable around your characters, so beat it. Just move on and go to the other rpers who can have the same rp taste as you.

And I also missed you as well. ♡

LadyofGalifrey 5 years ago

This is why I will probably quit soon myself.

hologram 5 years ago

all of the people that do these things will swear up and down that they don't and make it seem like it's just a you problem or that 'you aren't trying hard enough'. but there are plenty of other platforms for roleplaying besides rpr so your entire roleplay experience doesn't have to be over just because of what this site has become.

c3d87639ae30fa03c05b 5 years ago

don’t forget about the user chasing. some people simply ignore you bc they have a specific circle of users they want to rp with /: it’s ed, ik.

bananacue 5 years ago

so sorry, i had to share it because it makes meirritated by that fact in here.

bananacue 5 years ago

I also am related to this kind of topic tho. female charas don't get a lot plot while male charas get all the credits. it is too much, i wanna also ask people here if they are homoist but i know they will just be offended so i just keep it to myself instead. I'm actually into some straight and yuri rps but here is so overrated that female charas are being disregarded...

Jhopeexoticvip 5 years ago

I know what you mean. It's why I mostly do pm rps now. I'm always open to new ones if you'd be interested.
And I don't understand how you can play an idol wrong, especially in an au. That's kinda the point. They aren't idols or even the actual personality.
For that matter, even non aus aren't really non au since none of us really knows how an idol would act in any situation. We would only be guessing. People need to stop being asses!