I kinda broke up with my bestie

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AuthorLafrisee
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Asked to take a break because our friendship was too painful for me, and I knew I couldn't be a good friend to her at the moment. 

 

I couldn't handle how much we've changed as people, it sent me into life crisis. I felt anxious everyday (feeling sick, heart pounding). Just the thought of her made me want to cry. I was obsessively checking my messages and making myself even more anxious.

Told her about my feelings and things became awkward. It was painful that things were so awkward. 

 

I ultimately figured that I didn't have the emotional capacity to deal with this all, so I asked for a break. It's been over a week since we've talked. It's the most we've ever gone without talking in 8 years of friendship. 

 

I don't know if we can come back from this. 

 

Cutting her out of my life has been good for my mental health, despite how much I love her. 

 

Today her mom messaged me, and while there was a lot of love in our conversation, between me, her, and her family, I've been feeling anxious ever since the conversation ended and have been having intrusive thoughts/flashbacks to unpleasant conversation we've had while trying to fix our friendship. 

 

Realistically speaking, I can't be her friend again until I fix myself, but I'm overwhelmed. My heart aches for her, because her mom told me I'm her only friend.

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AmbieAssassin 3 years ago
You said it yourself though that you have to take care of you first before you can be her friend. Taking care of your own mental, physical and emotional health is always most important. It's too hard to be there, trying to help repair others, when you've got cracks in yourself. I can relate to that. It's draining trying to take are of yourself and someone else. ><

You can do it though, love. Just be strong and focus on yourself for a bit, even though it's hard. <3
erigom 3 years ago
you can get through this. it’ll take some time but it’s good you are sharing your feelings — don’t go through this alone! find a new hobby or something to enjoy and try to find some closure for the relationship so you can better yourself. you can do it!
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