a rant about inclusiveness and face/userchasing

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why has this site become so clique/friend group based and unfriendly? so many roleplays on here are just filled with the same groups of friendsand  users in every place playing the same characters. like they all just intentionally go from roleplay to roleplay with each other and exclude everyone else unless they happen to be a certain charcter that's extremely popular. if you just want to talk to your established friends and friend group, why won't you just make a friends only/private roleplay, or just pmrp? what is the point of joining a roleplay with many other users just to stay in your little bubble all or the majority of the time? it's even worse when places like to claim that they're friendly, welcoming, that face chasing isn't allowed and to make an effort to talk to include everyone yet the admins don't actually do that and take part in excluding others along with allowing others to do it as well.  a lot of people won't even acknowledge someone who says hi or hello, but the second one of their friends, their s/o, or a popular character/a character they like says hi they're all "omg is that *insert user* hi!!!!!", "hi baby how are you ily uwu". "omg it's *insert specific character* hi it's nice to meet you". people will argue that you need to say more than hi but why is that only the case for people who aren't popular or your friend or significant other? why are they suddenly not deserving of acknowledgement for saying a hi or hello but those others are? if they can say a simple hi and get tons of responses and interaction that should be applied to everyone.  even when people do say a whole lot more than hi and try to join in on or start a conversation, they will still often be completely ignored and talked over or it will get silent. once someone popular or part of a friend groups suddenly shows up and says something, then all of a sudden it's active again and everyone wants to start talking to them. sure, sometimes people can miss or overlook posts by others, but this happens a lot when a room is not even moving that quickly so it's obvious it's just intentional exclusion.

this also ties into move in couples, so many move in couples just go from roleplay to roleplay and spend the majority of their time just tagging each other, being coupley and lovey dovey in public, or stick to their walls/room and really only interact with each other. again, what is the point of that? why not just make a private roleplay or pmrp? is there really a point to traveling from roleplay to roleplay just to continuing roleplaying a specific couple when you only want to talk to each other? if anyone dare to call any of these things out in a roleplay when they see it, they'll just be called things like 'negative', 'toxic', or 'problematic'  and most likely just get ganged up on by the groups of friends and people doing these these things and/or kicked out of the roleplay. it blows my mind that so many people on here like to preach about inclusiveness and friendliness yet are extremely selective and exclusive with who they talk to and intentionally leave others out making them feel like and ruining a place that people use for fun and to actually meet people to roleplay with.  this site has changed so much since i joined i sometimes question if this is the same rpr i initially joined. 



 

 



 

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yxgurt 3 years ago
people that are "popular" and get attention are those people that once put effort in keeping in touch with others and creating friendships, and also people that been on this site for years. this site is literally made of max 150 active people that know each other. you guys really think /friends/ come in that easy? no, you don't breathe and they fall from the ceiling. i get what you're saying and i feel it sometimes, but you man, there are those that only appear in the chat to say hi then yeet because you dont uwu them, like hello- , and then they on everyone for not giving them attention. i know a looooooot of friendly popular users that talk to everyone because the other side at least tries to slide in the convo. then again, it's the effort you put in your conversations, cause nobody will chase you if all you do is *hides* or complain about your life.
4983dd8c2cc75a0ba148 3 years ago
Honestly, those kind of people are full of ...

From my old account cuz I used to have one before deletion, I used to be an entertainment rp and there was favoritism going on there between the admins and their friends...
cupcakegalaxy 3 years ago
Honestly, this is one of the main reasons I am rarely around now. Aside from personal life struggles, this heavily affected my muse and overall mood of being here.

It's sad and discouraging, but what can we really do?
getashape 3 years ago
Oh god this was hugee im sorry guys lmao ;;
getashape 3 years ago
I do kind of agree but again i disagree to an extent, when theres a interesting place of course everyone would want to join, friend groups or not, rather than stay in a pmrp or private place just because they’re a friend group. everyone is not into pmrping and every friend group doesnt only want to talk to each other, there are other reasons they have for joining places, just because they join them together doesnt mean they dont want to rp with anyone else or talk to anyone besides their group or else no one would meet new people and rps wouldnt get anywhere, and ive seen people meet and make new friends. And as for using the same characters and popular or less popular characters, muse is an important thing in roleplaying, certain characters are some peoples ultimate muse, someone(s) they favor rping as, so i feel as though this point shouldn’t be used against people because everyone has a go-to muse and if that character is free they will take them, as for unpopular characters vs popular characters getting recognition, i feel its a how they put themselves out there and even then they still get acknowledged, its really just the rp USERS who show special attention to people they know and therefore its seen as them projecting this special affection towards that user’s character, and tbh that isnt a problem besides the fact people nowadays constantly mix ooc and ic, all those ways of greeting people “””” but the second one of their friends, their s/o, or a popular character/a character they like says hi they're all "omg is that *insert user* hi!!!!!", "hi baby how are you ily uwu". "omg it's *insert specific character* hi it's nice to meet you". “”” this is all a form of ooc where it should be ONLY in a ooc room, so its very understandable if another character that doesnt know anyone would see this and not get the same kind of greeting, would feel left out so i think people should acknowledge people they like or know in a ooc part of the place so others dont feel like out because i agree some people shouldnt be bias about their amount of interaction and interest in one person but then again, you CAN NOT force people to be interested in everyone, everyone goes to rps for a reason and sure they dont have to ignore anyone and can be nice about it but they dont HAVE to act as if they are so interested in the entire rps characters.

As for the couples, just like everyone else im sure they want to experience the aesthetic of the rp too, just because they’re a couple and its a given theyll talk to each other the most, shouldnt invalidate them being able to join and be stuck to some pmrp. This applies to the couples/move-ins ive witnessed, of course they will talk to each other a lot but they do try to talk and get along with other people but ive seen people try to say theyll leave the room to not interrupt the couple or feel as if their intruding so they leave when more times then not the couple doesnt want to feel like they’re on couple land everywhere, they want to make new friends talk to people rp with otherss, ect but people avoid doing all that when they see a couple and so it makes it LOOK like that couple only cares about being around each other when really that is not the case. Now, thats a different storie for people who stay quiet and blatantly ignore people until their s/o comes now that is a “whats your point of being here” type of thing because they arent making a effort to participate in the rp itself.

But again rps are just places and settings where people just want to experience the theme of it and whatever happens just happens, not being forced to do this or that to the point of the rps purpose never being reached because its not fun anymore.

Everything you pointed out is something everyones done before and still do, and i feel its going to keep happening even if its pointed out everyday, the problem as a whole is ooc and ic should stop being mixed. But i do agree with some points you’ve had in this post and hope the way things are done are altered to make everyone feel good about rping and rpr as a whole again.
nymphtears 3 years ago
omg preach-
this happens so much omg
Sugarly 3 years ago
Well I agree to a degree. I have a small friend group but I get called clique and toxic and problematic when I treat everyone the same regardless. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
fddcb0b9b8abf54e2151 3 years ago
literally preach it, it’s so cliquey nowadays
c5a660b296b96153e440 3 years ago
I agree with you there, so thats why , I always welcome and chat to whoever i can
Because feeling ignored and left out and stuff is not the best
ToxicityOfOurCity 3 years ago
It’s sad to see it all happening this way
Even worse, there’s so many good rps out there that aren’t infested with cliques, but because nobody from a group is in them, so few people join them and they all end up closing due to a lack of people and activity

I can get people wanting to hang with their friends but it’s fucjing over everyone else
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