Emotional manipulation/ guilt trip/ personal problems ranting

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So I have this one friend that I grew closer to her because I was the only one bringing her into the conversation in our friend group otherwise she wouldn't mutter a word (shes 26 btw). I thing it's the worst disrespect to ignore someone or even make them feel not included so I approached her, texted her in the group chat, mentioned and and we naturally grew closer. I realized she's a really repressed individual... she wouldn't study anything, she wasn't even looking for a job she has never really worked, just stayed at home most of the time because she had no friends..her parents didn't want to open the wifi router because they thought it would catch a virus and her mother was convinced that it causes brain cancer and that she has a headache whenever they turn it on...she was even afraid to visit a site like kissasian/dramacool to watch some dramas because she was afraid she would catch a virus and someone would hack her computer...so I simply told her that she's kind of overreacting and that I have been to numerous sites all these years without ever catching a virus that would cause serious problems...I suggested her to use antivirus just to have a sense of protection to put her at ease and then she started blaming me out of the blue that I disrespect her by saying that and I always offend her beliefs this way, just because I tell my opinion...She didn't seem like this kind of person at first, she was really little and genuine but when we grew closer she would always start blaming me and get really defensive from time to time even though I was super careful with my words I would still apologize if she felt like I offended her in any way..but I feel like this is becoming a habit now, she always texts me to vent out her anger at me, blame me for the most random things and making me feel guilty even though I literally did nothing wrong in the first place! She would even text me to tell me that I'm a bad friend for not texting her while I was on vacation because I just needed to distance myself from her because whenever we talked I just felt bad about myself afterwards..I was having fun with my boyfriend,posting stories etc when all of a sudden she texted me that she doesn't want to talk to me anymore and kept blaming me, playing the victim before thanking me for our good times and goodbyeing me...I'm starting to feel that she's been so overly dramatic and plays the victim to guilt trip me so that I apologize for something I didn't even do in the first place...
Sorry for ranting here just really needed to write this down, if you've made it this far I would really appreciate a second opinion on this matter!
Also sorry for my late replies, this just has ruined my inspiration lately but now I'm feeling better and am back to working my replies for everyone~

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4983dd8c2cc75a0ba148 3 years ago
Sounds like a toxic fake friendship going on

What a she is. As for now, focus on the people who really care about you and love you the most.
leet19 3 years ago
That doesn't sound like a good friendship at all >< I think you should tell her all you're thinking and if she still is playing victim, cut her out of your life. Too much toxicity
9e5c60e417fc4ac5e06f 3 years ago
sounds exhausting bub
so toxic
if i were you, i'd just cut ties already.
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