↷ an extensive list of things you should never let anybody do

• Let nobody try and restrain you from interacting with other people.
• Let nobody intervene with your life’s schedule. If you’re busy, tired, have other priorities, it is okay to be a little selfish.
• Let nobody invalidate your mental health, particularly if you’re dissociating because something triggered a trauma response.
• Let nobody make you feel bad for walking away for that reason.
• Let nobody try to persuade you that it’s okay for problems to be brought up pertaining to you, but not get solved through a civilized conversation because they’d rather you just slap a bandage on it, kiss it better and call it good. Now make this repetitive. 
• Let nobody blame you for every little thing.
• Let nobody invalidate what was once a potential new name to replace your possible dead one because you were trying to comfy yourself with a new gender identity. 
• Let nobody make on a whim purchases to bait you into visiting them for whatever reason and try to convince you that you two haven’t been on rocky waters for awhile.
• Let nobody dare tell you that you aren’t capable of loving somebody else because if you weren’t, you would’ve never pursued them to begin with and tried time and time again, apology after apology, all in attempts to keep things positive and intact because you cared about the connection that much.
• Let nobody get mad at you for relying on a good friend for advice and/or comfort when they do the same exact thing behind closed doors.
• Let nobody hold expectations on you. You are your own person and unless such expectations have been pre-established, never feel pressured to adapt.

The lesson? Don’t pass off the first red flag you see. Run, because it only gets worse from there.