asking with utmost seriousness.

without trying to reiterate what everyone's already said, my two cents on this is the fact that most of the users active on this website are grown adults, myself included, we should all have a pretty good idea of how to act accordingly and mature considering having maturity is something that's really preached a lot here, "oh let's be mature about this guys, let's not start mindless drama etc lets listen to all sides", yet for some reason it just doesn't seem to apply when it's inconvenient for one party or the other? most of us have very different backgrounds, families, life experiences, and all that diversity is great and very much celebrated, but the minute someone respectfully presents an opinion or topic that may be entirely different to a an individual or sometimes a crowd, we no longer tend to care about that person's different point of view or even respectfully inquire and have a civil conversation about it. it becomes "if you're not with us you're against us", and then you are ignored, blocked or blacklisted even if 10 minutes ago you were writing a thread with that person. people just immediately shut down and don't want to listen, even if you're presenting them with either factual information or even a personal anecdote- they don't want to hear it because they've already decided they will no longer interact with you, ever again. so it's quite hard to just openly share and discuss things, and so it's sad that because of that it's difficult to reach out and make amends with other people, or even make new friends here and there, while I always hope for a positive change atp who knows ;u; anyway sorry I rambled, thanks for bringing this up for discussion it's always a bit refreshing to actually see users willing to pose a question and to see good and civil responses and discussions in the comments!

I don’t know about others, but here is my own experience here in this side..

when I join a rp and let’s say something happen or some drama is stirred up or anything, and I voice my opinion (although I’m not a part of the drama at all) I get kicked out and blocked XD and then they make me sound like the bad guy.

I had once for a few years ago asked a question about why the age of a fc most be 21+ or sometimes 19+, I was really confused about it, because in my opinion it was the same if you rped an 18 old person or a 50 years old person, especially that rping has nothing with the real idol to do, it is just the face claim you use, let’s say after telling my opinion there or rather asked that question I ended being the worst villain, a e and much more..

and the latest episode I had was a few weeks ago when I reserved a character and then the admins suddenly changed there mind and I couldn’t reserve her because she wasn’t an idol but a model rather an instagram model.. I once again said my opinion and surprise surprise I got blocked XD also, I need to add it is a bull excuse, I knew later from a friend that the admin themselves used said model lol

What I’m trying to say with these episodes are that many people turn to the little block button when they don’t like something being said, many of them doesn’t have a foundation for what they say, and when you point that out or when you contradict them they easily block you.
many people doesn’t like that especially in a rping website because being block leave you out of many rps especially if it is the admins who does the blocking..

also what the other rper below said about the cliques say what you mean about someone who has established or a part of a clique and suddenly you have 10 users or more posting blogs and about you..
Personally I don’t care what they do, but I know many people who would hate to be put out like that, who would be really hurt by those agendas, so they keep there opinions to themselves…


there is also the last group which is like the person you mentioned in a comment below (I don’t know the user) but this type is too afraid that they instantly regret what they say, and delete it all afterwards, not wanting to be judged or not liking to hear replies..

In my experience…
Every time I try to speak up or communicate… I had very bad reactions (rpers and admins). I think it’s the fact that we are just anonymous users. There’s not much connecting us to the real world, a real face, a real name that people can follow or connect with.

If there’s confrontation is easy to just avoid, block (even tho blocking does nothing), you can easily change your username. The site makes it easy to just leave and drop and change behind a faceless icon. It’s easier to stir sh up when no one knows who you are and there are no consequences.

You can just create a new account, post a blog, delete your account after damage is done.

Yes, it could be easier to talk things out and one would think, after all these years, we have grown and mature - but I guess is not like that for everyone -

Even as I speak of this, i still have fear or confrontation because of really bad experiences where I got the short straw- which :/
So i just keep things to myself and avoid confrontation as much as possible.

There’s also the problem with “cliqués”
If you voice your opinion about someone or someone doesn’t like you, you can be ostracized. People will stop talking and rping with you even if you didn’t do anything or say anything to them.

Is just a very fine line - is really like walking on eggshells.

Thats why i have spent the last couple years rping in private and slowly coming back to public rps again…

Tbh a lot of the time if we speak out we end up hurting others. Even when we try to fix things and even apologize it gets dramatic for no reason as @hahime said RPR has slowly turn into high school drama. That's why people just stick to private rping. If not they have their own rp.

@tender because you keep deleting right as i respond to you, but no, this isn't about your blog. it's about literally any and everyone this applies to. it's a general observation. your blog, if anything, was just the thing that got me to finally ask about this because it's been on my mind.

It's easy to be misunderstood on the internet as by text alone we can't tell the other person's tone of voice, facial expressions etc. And it gets worse when we have people from all parts of the world, in some cultures people are very direct while for others it's seen as rude. We are a small group of people and drama starts very easily in here, so I understand why people might hesitate to disagree or give their opinions in general.

from what I've seen ( and expirienced ), it's usually that people here are nonconfrontational or too anxious to really deal with things of the sort. I've also learned on rpr, and outside, opinions are just.. not very welcome?

plus.. everyone who's been here for a while knows how high school drama based rpr is.