petition for y'all to unban married idols bc of HIM

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Authorthemis

Created Aug 17, 2023 09:35:22

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the title is a joke, i just watched chen's new mv and i was lowkey highkey crying about how gorgeous he was, and since he is my ultimate bias to ever bias, it made sense of course.

i have noticed since his marriage announcement (or engagment announcement ig, since he is supposedly not married yet?? but idk, i dont really trust anyone regarding his personal life other than him lol) that rps have been banning idols who are married from their rps. i kinda understand in nonau rps, especially those centred around dating, but i still wonder if the same rules should apply to those who are publicly dating other idols/people like red velvet's joy (who, last i knew, was dating crush) or twice's momo when she was dating heechul, but that was before this marriage ban so ig that doesn't count? idk. not trying to bring up bp's jennie and bts' v bc they haven't made any public announcement about their rs (not that they have to) but ig they would count if that happened. there are probably others but i do not keep track of that lmao.

i could be doing strawman but this blog is mostly for the question: why? why do you feel that banning a married idol (or fcs, i should say) is a rule that is just as needed as banning a deceased or problematic idol? perhaps comparing the two is unfair but i'm genuinely curious. this blog probably comes off very standoffish and super biased, since i rp jongdae when he is allowed in an rp and i personally dont see the need, but im genuinely interested to hear your thoughts on the matter. because i can't think of any reason other than respecting specfically chen's family's privacy, and maybe ikon's bobby as well, though idk much about that situation since i don't stan him or ikon (no reason i just dont lol i already got enough on my plate). but idk how a non-celebrity's privacy would be affected when it is just someone rping that person in an rp in an aurp (i do understand more for nonau tho, like i get it).

ANYWAY... im not trying to present this as an argument but as a discussion and i hope you will be respectful bc i will be. i just find this rule to be thought-provoking and its one i dont understand, espcially since i haven't seen this being a concern before exo's chen's marriage announcement, but i could be wrong, that is just how my memory serves. but im not trying to start fights or be standoffish since i have friends who put this rule into their rps and i literally hate confrontation and fighting so much hfdjhds so if my tone is really off im sooo sorry, it is not my intention, im just curious.

stan chen for clear skin and let me know your thoughts on this rpr rule ❤️

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prompto 1 year ago

i keep forgetting they’re married tho fr. didn’t exo just debut last year? aren’t i still in high school?

grandemint 1 year ago

i definitely understand not wanting married idols in non-au rps, unless their irl partner also joins, but if it's for an au then i've never really understood married idols being banned! i've always loved roleplaying as ariana grande in au's and sadly, i haven't been able to in a very long time!

Kaworu 1 year ago

I don't rp non/semi-au so my opinion applies to au only.
Tbh I have been asking myself that question since I've seen that rule being applied for the first time. I don't remember when that was, but I have a feeling it was in the last two years or so. RPR used to be much more flexible in general in the past. While most people focus on romance and as genres, I don't understand how that's disrespectful to a married fc. I see the fc as an actor/actress. A married actor doesn't stop starring in romances and will even kiss their romantic counterpart on screen, so why is rping not allowed? And now is rping a married idol more disrespectful than rping someone as a criminal?

parsley 1 year ago

I never ban married idols in my rps, mainly cause they are aus! :)

mugiwara 1 year ago

"the title is a joke, i just watched chen's new mv and i was lowkey highkey crying about how gorgeous he was, and since he is my ultimate bias to ever bias, it made sense of course."

just wanted to say that this is such a mood please he looks so Beautiful and his voice is to die for )))):

a little while ago I actually thought of the same question you brought up in this blog: if we are putting hard bans on artists that are married, what do we do about those that are in committed relationships sans marriage? not just when talking about joy, for example, but people like hyuna who had been with dawn for a really, really long time. where do we leave sooyoung (SNSD) who has been with her boyfriend for a whole decade?

at the same time, there's also this social contract that comes with marriage. it's an act of love between two people and, in the case of our boy jongdae, he has two babies and they may go for a third. in my head i respect him too much to feel comfortable snagging him in any non-AU setting; it feels disrespectful? mostly because i end up thinking of his children and wife and something about it feels like trespassing. i guess it also has to do with the state of non-AUs being really big ooc group chats, for the most part.

but for AUs, as long as the face claim hasn't passed away or isn't genuinely problematic (like. Truly Problematic dfjbkhkhdfjbkfjd), i think there should be free rein for people to chose the face claim of their choice. after all, people aren't rping idols that wish not to be rpd/impersonated, but will still ask for some of them in aus (especially in the oc ones which are super cool).

also!! i hope you've been doing well ): i miss you a lot

himbos 1 year ago

kind of agree with you and hanikami. i've thought about this recently and yeah, i get it for nonaus, but for aus and oc rps too... idk. would it still be weird or wrong to rp and even interact with a married fc? i know some people's personal hangup is with interacting with them too (mostly because them being married always comes to mind ig??? idk) so i kinda just... let it be ig.

nekojita 1 year ago

personally, i don't see a problem married face claims. essentially this is all fiction, and what we make of it and i don't have any qualms around it. however, i do get people seeing marriage as a boundary of commitment that they do not wanna trespass or infringe upon even if if roleplaying doesn't necessarily affect it in its reality.

themis [A] 1 year ago

also i'll delete this blog if y'all start fighting like im really not here for fighting ok we are all adults here, behave