Why isn't he over her, you ask?
If you've ever fallen for a best friend, I think you'll realize that falling out of love with them is one of the hardest things to do. And frankly, I don't believe it is quite possible in a short period of time either. Or at all. I think it only gets easier when you try to cope with the fact that they're not there anymore. And that every good thing must have an end. And that life isn't all about being happy. And the only mature thing to do is to accept it.
I don't blame him if he's not entirely over her. If I were him, I wouldn't be either. I, myself, have fallen for my best friend. I knew it was wrong in the first place but in the spur of the moment, it felt so goddamn right and well, I still ing did it. But I don't live with any regrets because it was exactly what I wanted.
Despite the jealousy I have for her, she was the best thing that happened to him and I understand and respect that. I don't try to give him reasons to believe otherwise. I used to be bitter over that and I can't lie and say that I'm not. It's just not as overwhelming.
Bob Marley once said: "You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there."
We don't love each other just yet, but - we do all of the above and that's a good enough reason for me to be with him. And I hope that's a good enough reason for him, to be with me.
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