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College is so stressful. I totally regretted of choosing the major my sister picked for me. It's the major that /she/ likes and she had an awesome score back when she was still in college. Now my Mom and her want me to follow her steps but I'm having too much pressure because this is not what I want. Even though I manage to get a good scores, I don't feel happy because it's not matched for her scores. If don't get a perfect score, she said that it's bad to my mom. Now I failed two subjects and I don't know how to tell both of them. I've been asking myself what I would I want to do in the future. I realize that I learn fast in languages and I wanted to take Korean Language in the past but I'm not allowed because they said I won't get a good job in the future. I wonder if I force myself doing the things I don't like and get a job, getting a lot of money but I don't feel happy. My life will go on like cycle with no excitement and just get more pressures. I think I will break in the end.

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Thewinterfairy 10 years ago
Bb, you should take a course where your interests lie and keep fighting for it! In the end, it's your dream and your job. They won't be living your life for you and if you're unhappy in the current program that you're in, maybe you should consider changing it? This happened to me and I was so miserable so I'm pursuing something that I'm actually interested in. Honestly, no one in university or college know what they actually want to be honest.

Honestly, learning languages is an amazing skill and if you find pleasure in it then you should pursue it. I mean, being a translator is a field that is always welcomed and such. You could even aim really high and be a translator at the UN.

Take a break as well, I mean, stress management as well is also a part of the college life-- when you find that things get too tough, just take a break and then go back to whatever you need to get done.

I learned all this from my first year in uni-- I can relate to how you must been tbh sobs

GOOD LUCK FRIEND, IM ALWAYS HERE TO TALK
glosspd 10 years ago
Honey, I'm not in college yet. I'm actually still in high school. I'm lucky to have the best parents and sisters ever. They don't pressure me on what I should take for collage. I honestly love arts but I know the limits to it. My sister is waaaay better than me. But it doesn't matter. I guess lol I can still wait to find the perfect course for me. Now, get back to yours. Why don't you just tell your mother about this? Don't let what your sister said get into your head. It'll just makes things worst. You're good at languages right? Why don't you learn them through the Internet? Then maybe during a long holiday, get a part time job for languages and prove to your mother and sister that you are more into those kind of majors. If it doesn't work, you can just drop it if you want. Don't let them control your life like that. Sure, they are your family but they have limits to what they can control you. If things doesn't work out, then we got no choice. What major are you taking? Maybe you can do something in the future that relates to something that you love to do? I mean there is always a way to get to the things that you want. If you have any problems, you can always come up to me. I may be young but I consult people sometimes. I'll try my best to help you okay? Love, me <3
SHInfinite_93 10 years ago
Humm ~ what can I said about that?? For a person to feel happy and think "ohh I don't have regrets because I had manage to accomplish what I wanted" that person had to do what really makes her happy. With that I'm saying that you should do what makes you happy. I don't know what it is to have someone decide my future or saying what I should choose. My parebts never had said or force me to takr something that I don't like.
I remember that in high school when I was choosing my major (yeah here in high school we choose a major like a department) I was hesitant between three major but one of them was what I really like to do and see me doing, in working on that in my adult live, and I remember thinking if that will be a good future for me, if I get a job in what I chose to do or which major give me the more probably of getting a good job...in the end I end up choosing what I like to do what I was seeing myself doing in 20 years, and I will tell yoh honestly what I choose don't give me the garantees that I need that I will find a job in that area for sure. We never get the certain that we are end up doing what we had dream to, or what he like to do. So so what hou like to do, what makes you really happy, do t be like that person that didn't had do what they want or work in his dream job and then when they get kids they forcs the kids in doing something that I had wish to himself but end up making is kid doing it, make is kid leaving a dream that is not his.
And the matter of telling kr mother and sister that you had fail in two subjects, well take a deep breath and tell the truth. The truth can hurt and be disapoited but is better telling tbe truth instead of lie or not tell. They can be sad or react in other way but they will end up accepting it ~
exhaustipated- 10 years ago
I think that you should do what makes you happy. Don't do something to get someone else's approval. You want your own approval. You are in college and going something you don't like. Stop doing it instantly and do what you want to do. Be a translator...you could probably start some talk show and have it in all kinds of languages. You could go and venture to new countries and be able to speak their language. You'll be able to explore and so what makes you happy. Seriously. Don't so something that makes you unhappy and that doesn't make you feel like you have accomplished okay?!
KaiLyann 10 years ago
´May I ask what's your current major? And honestly you should be studying something you like or you'll get bored and hate all of it.
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