Exclusion

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Author-ForeverCasual

Created May 22, 2016 01:48:20

Don't you just hate that feeling of exclusion?

I just dislike how I used to be close to this group of people, but now they sort of just forgot about me even though I occasionally say something. It's like I try to get included but everytime I do I always kill chat and I hate to ruin them having fun, or they don't really respond to me.

I just sort of wish it was how it was before. None of them even message me anymore. It kind of hurts because I don't have many friends irl. I go online and make friends because well...it's easier and I have less anxiety about it.

So yeah. They all just talk to eachother except me and I try to join in but I never know what to say. I just feel like a burden to them. This is why I hate making friends close to my age because I'm always forgotten. They always find someone better than me and I become the third wheel everytime.

Can anyone relate?

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sonathea 8 years ago

I can completely relate to you. Heck, I'm experiencing this right now and I'm just being a total lump of sadness (trying hard not be pitiful but ugh). The longer I witness the chat going on without me, the more I get sad. You know that feeling right? Feel like a burden, an invisible nobody, a piece of unnecessary trash and more....

But you know what? I'm trying to piece myself back together and enlighten myself I should stop trying and find someone better to work with. But how? If you hang with folks who always try to one up each or you, those are the conversations you shouldn't hang around for long. Friendship is not built over bragging rights and shooting comical statements just to impress. Find someone who can do both: share the same humor you do, can hold intimate conversations (NOT UAL but like something that can induce your relationship to be closer, insightful conversations but not too political/societal deep) and most importantly someone who cares about you. Remember that saying: it takes two to tango! Obviously those people don't care for you so why waste time caring for someone who won't care back? They're not worth the trouble. Friendships are meant to have trust, respect, enjoy each other's company and miss you when you're not there.

I don't know if I can guarantee if we will get along but I'm interested in being your friend. Will you give it a shot? ^^

The_Devil 8 years ago

Total relatable, I understand that feeling and it as hell because you want to get along with others but don't seem to fit right. But that's not our fault though. It's part of life sadly. It's okay if we get excluded as long as we don't cling to them as if our life dependent on it. If they are able to find new ones you can too. It's just take a while to find someone close to you. Usually it doesn't matter if they are the same age or not, friends are friends. As long as you share a bond with someone that have the same interest as you do, you'll find someone. Just do what you like the most irl and online and soon you'll find a community or group to fit in. P