thots pt. 3

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this may or may not make no sense because i want to address a few things
also pls don't take offense. you don't have to read it if things trigga you easily.

*1 : tmw you can tell who's in highschool, middleschool, or not going to college/hasn't entered adulthood yet bc A: they are here all the ING time B: when they talk about certain touchy subjects they have no goddamn filter and they sound naive as hell bc odds are they haven't seen the world granted to them through "college" or "career" goggles. C: they're so into they're nearly prejudiced against yuri and straight. (idk why this is a thing, i've just noticed it) D : when they try to lay the facts down they only regurgitate what was learnt through public school textbooks and not through meaningful discussions or even some lectures given in a college or real life scenario. E : they overuse the word daddy and 9/10 are strangely kinkier than the adult populace

*thank god not everyone is like this, but it's becoming a thing

 

2 : idk if it's just me and my occasional inactive , but it's getting progressively harder to build successful relations with other characters in rps if you're a female. and even harder if you're not friends with the users. i have friends who've done so much for years and years with bundles of success, but when they play women its like *cricket sounds*. Or when im so used to the dry metaphorical weather when rping women, cause i have nearly my entire rpr career, that recently when i've been playing males, i'm suddenly bombarded with messages and conversation-starters. and most of the time, i'll post once as a male and get seven conversation starters who continue to engage; but when i post as a female multiple times i get two conversation starters and maybe one who will continue for fifteen minutes, and then just drop our conversation. 

 

3 : i think bxttxm brought this up once, but its amazing how much MORE attention female characters get after having scandy dps with lots of or or skin showing. then by doing this you're encouraging rpers [ myself sadly included ] to have more raunchy dps to get people to actually talk to them. and then on top of that, the conversation created is often hyper-ualized or purely based on physical appearance, not necessarily trying to get to know one another or to rp. i find this even more sad because the demographics on rpr are mostly female, and so in a sense we are ualizing ourselves [ im also sadly; guilty of this ]. there's great talks on feminism from the rpers here but i find that the social construct we've learned even as females ourselves, out-weighs what we want to actually do and believe in, or what we think we believe in. 

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calcifer 7 years ago
i've come to terms that rpr has become a dominant site which is why as someone who mainly roleplays as females i kinda hate the "oh, if you're ignored then it's probably because you're not putting yourself out there! try harder!" argument. really in the end, it's because my character's either not a male, part of an insanely popular or fresh faced group or i'm not part of a clique.

with your last point, i don't really see anything wrong with provocative dps themselves? it's kinda murky for me, tbh. i think it only becomes an issue when everyone reduces a female character to just that, and it alone becomes purely the motivation for engagement in which everyone approaches her as if she was one dimensional. though, it's apparent that the majority of the site sadly falls into that.
PrettyFace 7 years ago
The last paragraphs tho.
Might be the case, but I think that's both with female and male characters sadly enough. Like, the more masculine a guy look, the more attention will he get compared to the more "boyish" characters out there. It's just like that with females as well. They want a woman not a "girl" and are sadly enough confusing femininity with ual appeal.
amadeus 7 years ago
The yuri rps I've been in are all sort of dead and in rps with all orientations/genders, my female charas are passed by because of all the gay males or simply everyone.
Also, as a male, I'll be passed by if I play the groups I like most (since they're underrated). Maybe this is part of why I rp Yoongi so much, because people see BTS and actually talk to me because otherwise, I'll be ignored and feel awkward (more than usual-)
borderline 7 years ago
I don't roleplay females but I noticed same things regarding the popularity ( if you can call it like that, for the lack of the better word for now ). Nevertheless, despite playing a guy, I can tell you I observed that female roleplayers became more selective as well, I don't know if it's the matter of the fact that I don't roleplay popular male muses such as BTS, Seventeen or NCT, or my natural awkwardnessㅡ

" and even harder if you're not friends with the users "
It seems that somewhere along the way, people stopped really including newcomers / people outside their circle and what I see now is friends joining roleplays and permanently existing in the chatroom. Kinda because just like you ( what I'm assuming boldly from your blogpost ), I wish I could create some bonds with various people. But then I fail even after a few attempts, rip.

Also as someone who adores straight rps, shout-out to all female roleplayers possibly coming across my comment ㅡ don't feel pressured because of what has been said in the 3rd point. You all deserve appreciation and attention regardless of faceclaim's "assets". Don't bother with the ism craze.
EnchantingNightmare 7 years ago
It's nice to see that I'm not the only one with this opinion.
Taeminsbestie 7 years ago
I feel you on playing girls, its like everyone ignores you lmao. But playing guys too I havent had any real success in people replying to me or asking for starters unless Im playing a really popular top. I could play someone as a switch or just as a less popular character and not get any attention and its so annoying like I wanna build relationships and stop ignoring me you little s but yeah over all its easier playing boys. and probably easiest to be a top
bigsadenergy 7 years ago
/double claps for this post. (esp. since my point was mentioned)
ForeverYearsOfUs 7 years ago
C: they're so into they're nearly prejudiced against yuri and straight. (idk why this is a thing, i've just noticed it)

GIRL YES YES YES TO EVERYTHING I FEEL YOU SO HARD
Honestly when I'm a girl it's so hard to find anyone to talk to that's of the opposite because all the people that rp straight guys are like busy college students or students going into college and like all the straight girls flock to them
When you talk to a guy that's not specifically straight- they're probably gay, or bi but they prefer guys coughssogaycoughs

When I play a guy, ladies start running to me and be like "I like you even though we've barely exchanged words"
You know I think people are discouraged by the really clingy girls that like have crushes after just talking to someone once
Also I feel the y dp thing even tho I do it too sometimes
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