I've seen this a lot on this site and it makes me wonder just HOW you guys are operating. I'm in a lecture s oooo ugly blog ahead, but I really want to discuss this:
"Triggering".
We all know what it is and how it works, but do we really? I'm just thinking aloud here but why is it that we can allow ourselves to be so easily deterred by one topic and yet vehemently defend another so long as we've got an excuse? I mean, after all, it's "just my kink", right?
Why are we so easy to attack others for mentioning or suicide when we'll turn a thousand blind eyes to other, just as unsettling topics. A user (who shall remain unnamed) can be violently bothered by the mention of self-harm yet you see them requesting PM plots for and underage .
I'm honestly confused.
This isn't a blog meant to compare the weight of one trigger to another, but guys. I think it's time we take on a little autonomy here. As someone who has been through her fair share of trauma and is still shrinking in and out of it, I get that some things are disturbing. You don't want to be in an environment where people glorify subjects like that but c'mon now...
If you think about it, 9 times outta the 10 that someone will say something "offensive", the user behind the screen is like 12 years-old. Okno not that young but ye, usually they're... pretty damn immature, in a mental sense. Sometimes they're old enough to know the magnitude of their words but they just don't give a . Maybe they want attention or acknowledgement.
Idk. I'm not validating it. If anything, I'm trying to tell you all the hypocrisy of a lot of our actions. If it isn't a kink of ours, it isn't an issue. If it doesn't bother us because we PERSONALLY have no connection to it, we shrug it off. It doesn't make sense to me. Being TRULY triggered is something close to actual PTSD. Being TRULY triggered is dangerous and honestly destructive, not just "oh ew I dun like this, you shouldn't say this". Guys. It's the Internet. Half the people say, ESPECIALLY ONLINE, will be stupid. So pick and choose your fights.
Don't become keyboard warriors for EVERY issue, you know? Some "jokes" shouldn't be taken as such but most of what I see on this site is pretty... juvenile? I've seen worse on YouTube and Twitter. But seriously for your own health and self-concept, take ownership of a bad situation when it hits. If it's awkward, log out. If it's a friend of yours, speak to them. When you see certain blogs, just DON'T OPEN THEM. That's part of being that "bigger person". Let them joke and be ignorant in some cases, but don't ruin YOUR own day by allowing it to eat at you. Function without connecting things to your own experience and allowing it to summon a wall of "you can't say that around me".
No one's going to step around eggshells, as sad as it is. It's a site and, while I've seen people write and discuss some disturbing things in blogs and chat rooms, I've seen worse in charrie bios. Look at yourselves and see that not everything YOU write or like is lovely to those around you. Just know that it's all part of living. It's part of interaction in a setting without consequence. I mean, we all have weaknesses and pieces of our past that we aren't proud of... But that's when you morph it into a strength, use it as something to better you. Not inhibit you in a conversation.
Anyway tl;dr--- do we REALLY know what it is to be truly "triggered"? Because we can't pick and choose based on our kinks or fantasies. There's always something that will bother someone, so let's opt out of feeding trolls or dragging others and just... rp?
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