Sometimes I wish I could get this through some people's head...

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AuthorMidorin
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That other folks aren't just NCPs in your life (or roleplaying).

People have their own feelings and wishes and needs. And just because those might conflict with yours, doesn't mean they are a bad person or have it out for you :')

Life is a multiplayer game and you won't always get what you want. People are their own autonomous beings and aren't obligated to do what you wish they did! Like, it may hurt your feelings, but if it would hurt them more to bend to your will, why would your hurt matter more than theirs? It doesn't!

You can't force people to give you attention or love if they don't wish to. Or, well, you may try to manipulate them into it, but then you're an , and you're still not gonna get the enthusiasm you're wishing for. So just ing stop it. Why is it hard to be a decent and respectful human being? Go find the people who do want to give you the attention and love that you crave. Or go play dating sims and videogames where everyone else is indeed just a made up character and code and you won't hurt them by forcing your way. Or write fiction/fanfiction where you can play god and what you want will always happen, exacty the way you want it to.

But that's not how real life works. Or roleplaying on this site for that matter. This is not real life, but there is still a real person with feelings behind the characters we play. We have our own priorities and wishes for those characters, not just there to be NPCs for your roleplaying. As said above, if you want to rp with NPCs, go to a dating sim or a chatbot. And if you try to disrespect and manipulate and aggressively force your will on me or my precious friends, we got beef. I won't be calling names publicly but I hope people might reflect.

Okay, rant over.

Very likely the people who I'd like to speak to won't even read or won't notice themselves or won't accept the critique, but I ran into a couple of these "main character syndrome" folks recently and just had to let this out :') Thanks for reading and bearing with me.

ps. turns out I got more to say as soon as I hit post.

Those quietly and pirvately abusing folks, while being charming in public... don't you dare go saying your victim is the bad one for smearing your name. No, dear, it's you, smearing your own name by doing abusive and manipulative . Don't want a bad rep, don't do bad , as simple as that. You wish your victim had no support network and no one to tell your bad deeds to so 1) you can keep doing it unpunished, 2) keep them isolated so they got no one else to turn to and will be stuck with you even if you're continuously treating them like , which they deserve so much better than... So disgusting. Good on the survivors if or when they gather the courage to leave an abusive situation like that and get back the freedom they need and deserve. Don't you dare guilt tripping them for it or play the victim and smear them publicly for leaving you lonely... Maybe, learn to respect people, and you'll be able to build actual mutual human connections :')

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babyfangz 10 months ago
Let the comment below be a prime example of how you're NOT supposed to go about these types of situations.
63d328e4d30a2b03325e 10 months ago
Nah. this. I wanted out of my situation and they wouldn't let me. I wanted out. I said its not working and they said we should just be friends. And fought me for days. They fought me. I would express things I would get upset about, they would say 'i don't understand why you're upset' and I would say 'thats fine. Please just acknowledge what I'm telling you' and they would say 'why would I do that? It doesn't make sense for you to feel that way' and they pushed me to be friends. And I finally gave In. I was tired of fighting. And as their friend they would send be screen shots of men they were talking to telling me to be happy for them. And when I would express how uncomfortable I was with them sharing their dating life after our situationship ended, they called me jealous and controlling.when I just wanted a piece of my sanity to keep. I couldn't trust anyone. I lost nearly nearly all my friends because of them. Because behind my back they were whispering about me to their friends who saw the worst in me. They did it to me about people they claim to hate only to smile in their face and talk about them behind their back. And it had to be their decision to end it. They were that controlling. Apollogst was that controlling. And then afterwards everytime I spoke up, everything they did to me, they would post it on a blog victimizing themselves with the same exact they put me through. Saying their haters would live rent free in their head. Even joined a roleplay I was an admin in trying to talk to me and when I said nothing, they sent a paragraph to my head admin complaining how I should acknowledge them given my status. And I can't say anything. I have to smile and pretend it's okay. Because if I don't? Ill get another blog? More hell for their followers. I'll get mistreated for speaking my reality out. It ripped me apart seeing how my old friends turned to them without even knowing the truth of what happened. They are not the person they are showing everyone. Holy hell I'm like shaking as I write this because that backlash is going to up my life but I've been silent for over half a year now. Never with a narcissistic personality y'all. They will ruin your lives. And everything that happens to you, will be their tragic story. I'm not the first. I will not be the last.
babyfangz 11 months ago
THANK YOU. As someone who unfortunately went through a situation scarily similar to this on a broad scale, and with someone who I met on this site, no less, I'm glad to see this post. Remorse isn't within their vocabulary, but justice is in yours, so once again, thank you. Sincerely, a survivor.
tender 11 months ago
it's not my place to say anything rn but pls pls everyone familiarize yourself with the signs of trauma bonding and abuse, two resources linked below:

https://divethru.com/trauma-bonding-10-clear-signs/
https://archive.org/download/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf
orbitinsomnia 11 months ago
thank you thank you for saying these
Unholy 11 months ago
No kidding man.. it’s so mind blowing how hateful people are and the admins of this website do NOTHING. It’s disgusting. That’s why it’s so bad. I’ve watched people tear others apart in public and there’s nothing I can do. Mental and emotional abuse on this site is so real which is why I try so hard to BE NICE to people, to rp inclusivity because you never know what people are dealing with behind the scenes. Either in RpR or in rl.
-momus 11 months ago
It's the way I won't use my main account to comment on this for fear of backlash from past situations like this one, but yes... Many people get mistreated behind the scenes by abusive people who are loved by everyone publicly. And when that person stands up for themselves, the other people will beat them down as the bad person for finding their voice. And the abuser will beat them into silence by having a louder voice than them. And it's insane the amount of people who blindly follow abusers without stopping to think if they were in the wrong with how badly the abuser victimized themselves. Because behind the scenes, they're still being abusive, manipulative- but people love them. And they feed off of that love. And they're not going to change because they have enough support to believe they've done nothing wrong.

people will believe one sided versions of stories and never once stop to consider the other version... That supposed horrid person has a story too and more people should take the time to step back and listen instead of automatically writing them off as someone to be avoided. But the majority of people would rather be told what to believe over taking the time to find out the truth for themselves.
colazero 11 months ago
ihatecolazero 6 minutes ago Reply
"hopefully those who need to read this will and they’ll actually understand and get it through their head that when someone says no, they mean /no/. don’t try to guilt them into changing their mind and harassing them and making them feel like for setting boundaries."

said perfectly my god

some people really don't understand this
chikookiehope 11 months ago
"hopefully those who need to read this will and they’ll actually understand and get it through their head that when someone says no, they mean /no/. don’t try to guilt them into changing their mind and harassing them and making them feel like for setting boundaries."

said perfectly my god

some people really don't understand this
cardinal 11 months ago
stranger but thank you for saying this, yes
tyunning 11 months ago
say it louder for the folks in the back !!

hopefully those who need to read this will and they’ll actually understand and get it through their head that when someone says no, they mean /no/. don’t try to guilt them into changing their mind and harassing them and making them feel like for setting boundaries.

i could go on, but :’]

well said, bub, and i’m so grateful for you. <3
bamgeut 11 months ago
thank you thank you thank you thank you
sundestroyer 11 months ago
Knowing someone who acted like this and treated myself and my friends this way... sometimes I'm petty enough to want to namedrop but never have the energy to want to do it :') I don't know exactly what's going on here but I hope the situation gets better
oyaoyaoya 11 months ago
nothing to say but amen
also sending you love bby
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